[Narrator]

Now, let's talk about another basic, skill for caregivers, as well as cancer survivors: information seeking. Let's hear from Elena. 33. Elena: I'll never forget that day in the doctor's office at the cancer center. The doctor told Salvador, my husband, and me there was nothing more he or anyone could do for us. This last experimental therapy was no longer slowing down the cancer. The pain Salvador was feeling in his back was new growth of the tumor. Salvador was getting weaker every day. What do we do now? Where do we go from here? I needed information.

[Narrator]

As a caregiver of someone with cancer, you are always needing information in order to make decisions, solve problems, get help, and move forward. The need for information goes on throughout treatment and even after treatment ends. When cancer progresses, family members may need to assume more and more of their loved one's physical care. They may also need to assume more of the information-seeking role. In the example of Elena and Salvador, when their healthcare team had no more treatment options to provide, where could they turn for information on what to do next? Let's look at what Elena and Salvador did in this situation.

[Elena]

I knew after that visit with the doctor that I needed help to deal with Salvador's physical needs. I needed a plan for Salvador's care. I needed information in order to decide what was best for Salvador, our children, and me. The doctor mentioned hospice. I didn't know what hospice was. He told me to speak with the social worker and the cancer nurse in the clinic. It turns out that hospice is a special kind of care designed to provide support for people in the final phase of a terminal illness. Hospice would offer my husband and me care that would focus on quality, rather than length of life. This was good information to have.

[Elena]

I also knew I needed to call my insurance company. I remembered that I had worked with a case manager in the past in order to get Salvador's experimental therapy covered by insurance.

[Elena]

Lifting Salvador on my own at home was really hurting my back. His physical care, like bathing, was becoming more than I could do by myself. I didn't dare fall asleep at night for fear Salvador would wake up and try to get out of bed on his own. He was getting more and more confused at times, especially at night. I was exhausted and sad. I wasn't taking care of myself like I should. If this were to go on, I would be in bed next to Salvador. I knew that I didn't want to end up sick also. Our children live away from us. Our girls are busy working and raising their own young children. Our sons are busy with their jobs and families. I was concerned about Salvador and me becoming a burden on our children.
 
[Elena]

The case manager at the insurance company was able to explain Salvador's coverage to me. I asked about hospice, nursing homes, and attendant or live-in care coverage. I asked for her suggestions. She was helpful, but I still needed more information.

[Elena]

The oncology social worker was able to provide more information about hospice. She gave me information on nursing homes and agencies that provide in-home help and assistance. She answered my questions and helped me understand the different kinds of services that are available. We looked at the options and what effect they would have on Salvador and me. She helped me to give permission to myself to think of my needs as well as the needs of Salvador and my children. I don't honestly think that I had ever considered my own needs until this time, at least not without feeling guilty. This brought up other questions we needed to have answered. How could I give Salvador the best care and the care that he wanted, while still taking care of myself? Maybe, I should let my children tell me what is a burden for them and what might be easy for them to do to help. What did they feel that they could do to help in this situation? What could I do with all the stress that I was feeling?
 
this kind of situation.

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