The good part is finding out who is willing to step up to the plate and help. Usually a situation like that brings out the best in people, and they offer to do whatever it takes to lend a hand. We had friends who offered to come and clean our house! We also had neighbors who volunteered to come over to pick up the horse manure. It is truly heartwarming to see how people jump in to help and volunteer their time to do whatever you want them to.
The other side of the coin, however, is this: people that BEG you for something to do, putting pressure on you to find something for THEM to do so THEY will feel better. In the midst of dealing with a serious illness, that’s the last thing you need.