Sherri Romanoski, breast cancer survivor

"People with cancer need to be their own best advocates."

Life was great. I had a wonderful family, three terrific teenage boys and an adoring husband. I was just nominated as one of the top 10 teachers in Arizona. I had helped my school attain national recognition and had recently attended an award ceremony in Washington D.C. And then it happened.

In November 2000 I got the phone call. The doctor politely confirmed my worst fears — I had breast cancer. I switched to autopilot and actually kept a dermatology appointment I had that day. I sat in shock in the waiting room, came home, walked to the backyard, propped myself up against the patio wall and wailed. I mean, wailed. Feelings of devastation, lack of control, loneliness and desperation all washed over me. I remember thinking, "I may not live to see grandchildren!" To a kindergarten teacher, that is real pain.

Information is power, and being diagnosed with cancer sent me into a state of emergency for gathering information to help me cope with my diagnosis and impending treatment. My doctors gave me information about my tumor and treatment plan, but how was I to handle all this? For a woman who was so on top of things before, I felt powerless.

Finding very little assistance to help me cope, I managed as best as I could. I went through three surgeries in 10 days to remove the cancer, and I was a fierce advocate for myself throughout my treatment. Later, after I had completed a very tough course of AC chemotherapy, I came to the realization that this coping problem existed not only for me, but other patients as well.  People with cancer need to be their own best advocates, but they also need to know that they are going to get the type of comprehensive care they need.

About a year after treatment, I attended an advocacy-building retreat for cancer survivors, called "Life Beyond Cancer." My good friend and oncologist — one of those astute guys who really know their patients — sent me. It was there I met Susan Leigh, a founding member of NCCS. She became, and still is, my advocacy mentor and a great friend. My focus became clear: I wanted to help make a change — to help empower others to become self-advocates and deal actively with the overwhelming fear that comes with a cancer diagnosis.

Together with input from doctors, nurses and other survivors, we spent two years developing an organization called "BAG IT" to fill this void for our community in Tucson.

As the name implies, BAG IT delivers a bag of educational material to newly diagnosed individuals with cancer and their families. The information is designed to help them cope with their diagnosis, and empower them to become active members of their treatment teams.

The BAG IT bags include publications and CDs from NCI and NCCS. They address essential areas like how to handle your emotions, make the most of doctor visits, deal with insurance companies, make difficult decisions about treatment choices, and address quality-of-life issues. There is support information for caregivers and lists of resources, too. The bags also include a binder that helps cancer survivors keep track of their vital medical information.

BAG IT is a great beginning resource to address coping and empowerment skills. It helps the newly diagnosed "Fight the Fear". Simple? You bet! Effective? Absolutely!

In the beginning, I was focused on trying to get newly diagnosed patients over that first insurmountable "bad hump" — to help them cope and become self-advocates. What has evolved is a much more comprehensive resource. We include the Cancer Survival Toolbox to address life after treatment. We are finalizing a summary and follow-up care worksheet to include in our binder for doctors to complete for each survivor. We don't think patients should wait for the electronic version to appear. People need their information NOW.

NCCS is devoted to the lasting effects of system changes. I think we are accomplishing that in our community after four years of delivering BAG IT resources to more than 7,000 patients across southern Arizona.  Here are the changes we have made in our cancer care health system:

1)      People are now routinely receiving timely information at their first office visits.

2)      Physicians are supporting the distribution of comprehensive information that address more of their patients' cancer concerns, not just their tumors.

3)      Patients are more aware and active in their care, treatment and healing process. They learn how to advocate for themselves.

So, in the end, what started as self-advocacy evolved into advocacy for others and then into changing our local health care system — which is in the best interest of all. BAG IT has now committed to serving the entire state of Arizona, because wouldn't it be grand to change these systems statewide?

 

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Submitted by: Carol
July 26, 2009

I am a survivor, early stage, and a young nurse. City of Hope has better programs for those that are uninsured, than those that are insured, according to popular belief, due to endowments they receive for the uninsured. I would look into City of Hope and its branches Nationwide. I had insurance that had a high deductible and paid poorly. I have crippling debt, but, am very healthy now. I would not wait again, try all charitable avenues, private charities, over long public hospital waits, such as those that occur at County Hospitals. 8 months is just too long.

 

Submitted by: nanetteh
June 22, 2009

im nanette, i live in ft lauderdale florida. i had NO insurance. so the hospital broward general in ft lauderdale fl put me on hill-burton insurance. this is tax payers money that the hospital borrows, then must repay by taking in so many uninsured people. well my mom died of breast cancer and my sister has stage 2 same as me breast cancer. i opted for a double masectomy and was told NO.. my sister has insurance and was given a double masectomy without question. as far as waiting for results, well i was screwed, it was 8 months from time of diagnosis till i actually got surgery. i got no chemo or radiation just a single masectomy and am now on tamoxifen. this is stage 2 breast cancer, and im no dummy. the stupid dr actually asked me a year ago why i didnt get radiation. ths sh-- head just wanted to cover his own behind. im so disgusted with my LACK of treatment. any help would be appreciated. thx

 

Submitted by: Ann
May 21, 2009

Sherri, We need more people like you around, that is for sure!!!!!!!! I also had breast cancer and I am one and a half years clean. I am a very positive person and happy.

 

Submitted by: STEVEN ROBERT WITT MONTREAL CANADA
April 3, 2009

Steven Robert Witt I will tell you a little story I have not really shared I am now 45 12 04 63 when I was 41 I had a terrible lump on the back of my tongue I began to grow.at age 13 I had an ulcer could not drink at Bar mitzva"s ...After ears nose and throat doctors infectious disease doctors etc they finally removed it.Just like you it was miss diagnosed never did or was I supposed or followed up told what I should or should not eat or do etc..no more negative from me that was then this is now if you read my profile 5yrs later I am fighting every moment with passiion and fire.they said he said she said 3 months well look at me now..Stick with us NIRAJ I raed your profile and chose to address you over 600 or so per day on my Stand up for cancer sight.It is lonely and cruel disease it is not an addiction weare not contaminated humans we are sensitive people who need to share I will forward you my personal site and coordinates sincerly Steven Robert Witt Stevei W

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